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Dating coaching

Intercultural coaching, expat coaching

Intercultural encounters & the experience of being an expat are exciting, enriching adventures – and they can also be confusing, frustrating, sometimes even unsettling. These two experiences have different dynamics: when being suddenly immersed in a new country or culture as an expat, the scale and intensity of the experience at once is often overwhelming and disorienting. Intercultural encounters, on the other hand, tend to be less intense at any time, yet equally confusing and perhaps much harder to get a grasp on; intercultural marriages and companies with employees from different cultures will keep functioning in certain ways for years, without realizing just how much of their challenges, conflicts and confusions can be traced back to intercultural misunderstanding. And when we talk about "different cultures", we do not only talk about people from different countries (="narrow definition of culture"), but also people from different communities and people with different level of access to privilege, etc. within one country (="broad definition of culture"). Mastering intercultural awareness and competencies, therefore, is simply a must for everyone in today's world – and a huge potential for personal and collective growth and development. 

Both intercultural- and expat life challenges share one central common feature: your own world (including the values, truths, and the corresponding norms and behaviors that have been guiding you) meeting a different world (be it the internal world of another person, or that of a whole new culture or country), and this encounter resulting in some sort of clash, ambiguity, confusion or conflict. Very often, you may go into these situations mentally prepared (especially when you are an expat, you do expect to encounter some challenges at first), and still: you end up in ambiguous situations that leave you feeling strange – and sometimes it is only much later, that you realize this may have been a case of intercultural misunderstanding, one which was subconsciously governed and interpreted without much reflection.

 

This coaching journey will facilitate your process of developing your own approach to successful management of the unique expat & intercultural challenges that you are experiencing at the moment. You will reflect on your own values and habits as well as those of the 'other' – this deeper awareness will help you to understand the causes of conflict or misunderstanding better. You will discover your own triggers and further develop your intercultural competencies, especially 'ambiguity tolerance' – the capability to hold the space for uncertainty and conflict. You will practice 'zooming out of situations' and looking at arising challenges through the lens of the intercultural narrative. You will learn techniques to manage the stress and anxiety that often go along with intercultural clash situations. And you will also establish your own, unique approach to constructively solving intercultural and expat challenges.

Please note that this coaching journey is not an intercultural training, this is not about learning "the map" to a new culture. In my approach, no one should be made to "adapt to" nor "assimilate in" another culture, they just need to find authentic and constructive ways of being together with it. This process is about taking a journey within yourself – a process which will enable you to start creating your own map, with patience, courage, authenticity and confidence. In short: the approach that you discover for yourself will feel genuinely right for you. 

Dating, this whole process of trying to find the right partner(s) and to create the relationship that you truly desire can sometimes feel like a daunting, overwhelming, exhausting task. It is also a task in which staying true to yourself and letting your actions be consistently guided by a sense of self-worth may feel especially challenging. Unfortunately, when it comes to dating, often too much advice is given related to how one 'should' present themselves, how they 'should' or 'should not' behave and what image they 'should' convey – and as a result, one ends up feeling small and undeserving of true love and companionship. In this dating coaching approach, however, the emphasis is on authenticity and the power of self-esteem and self-respect, in short: Be real. Be you. You've got this. You're worth it. 

 

This coaching journey seeks to empower you, to encourage you to put yourself into the focus of your attention, and invites you to base your dating on self-awareness and self-love. It invites you to take a journey into yourself to understand what partner and what relationship you are really looking for, as well as to remove the obstacles you yourself may have unintentionally placed in the way of your ideal relationship. Ultimately, in this coaching journey, you are invited to find the key to your relationship satisfaction –and to finding the right partner(s) – through staying true to yourself, every step of the way.  

 

This expat & intercultural coaching journey is for you, if

  • If your experience as an expat is challenging and you are looking to develop your strategies to manage the arising difficulties.

  • If you are about to, or planning to become an expat in the future and would like to prepare yourself for the experience. 

  • If – in your work, friendships, marriage, or any other aspect of your life – you regularly meet people from different cultures and would like to develop your confidence and authentic approach to managing these encounters.

  • If intercultural encounters – perhaps even when meeting new cultures within the context of your own environment and community – make you feel anxious, stressed or overwhelmed, and you are looking for ways to manage this stress and discomfort. 

 

The journey you will take

The journey you will take

Your exact coaching journey will be adapted to your unique challenges and objectives, however, the basic roadmap will include the following elements. In the safe space of this coaching process – both during the 1to1 sessions and the (optional) homework and fieldwork exercises – you will be:

Truly understanding the current situation

  • Discovering your inner obstacles and challenges – and learning how to overcome them.

  • Reflecting on your inner map – and the map of the other culture. 

  • Discovering your trigger points and meeting some of your related fears – within the safe space of this coaching journey.

  • Identifying your inner strengths and resources that you can safely build on. 

 

Building competence

  • Learning to dissociate, zoom out, and activate the intercultural lens. Practice perspective change and rewriting narratives.

  • Practicing stress- and anxiety-management techniques.

  • Defining your approach and course of action based on what feels exactly right to you.

 

Taking action

  • Practice the tools and fine-tune your approach along the way.

  • Work with the actual, real challenges that come up. Any conflict or ambiguity that comes up, you will explore it, understand it, learn to accept yourself more fully through it as well as to successfully manage it, in the mentorship phase of this coaching journey.

 

Practical details and pricing

This coaching journey includes:

  • A free, 30-minute, commitment-free first consultation to help you decide if this coaching process is right for you

  • 8 coaching sessions (online or in-person in Berlin), 75 minutes each

  • Homework and fieldwork assignments in-between the sessions, facilitating and enhancing your process even further

  • A free, 30-minute follow-up video call two months after the end of your process to check on you and your progress

The timeframe of this coaching journey:

  • Ideal duration: 3 months

  • In the first 1-1.5 months, we meet on a weekly basis, allowing for a faster deepening of your process and creating the space for transformation
    (transformation phase, 5 sessions)

  • Afterward, we meet once every 2-3 weeks to discuss your action progress, working with the actual challenges coming up along the way
    (mentorship phase, 3 sessions)

  • The duration and time frame are flexible and adaptable – at our first consultation, we can discuss the exact timing based on your needs and preferences. 

Pricing:

  • Standard price of the entire coaching journey: 990 EUR (currently approx. 1.170 USD)

  • Action price (applies if you make your decision and book your coaching within 1 week following our first consultation call): 890 EUR (approx. 1.050 USD)

In the safe space of this coaching process, you will explore what dating with authenticity means to you, you will create a plan of action that feels genuinely right, and you will also take the first couple of steps along the way. The journey will include:

Defining the vision

  • Understanding on a deeper level who and what kind of relationship you are looking for – and learning to own your emotional needs.

 

Truly understanding the current situation

  • Discovering your inner obstacles and challenges – and learning how to overcome them. Facing some of your related fears – within the safe space of this coaching journey.

  • Identifying your inner strengths and resources that you can safely build on, that will help you reach your goals. 

 

Finding the path

  • Defining your plans, strategies, and courses of action based on what is exactly right for you, and not based on what is expected.

 

Taking action

  • Starting to implement the plan – still accompanied by your coach during your initial steps.

  • Working with the actual, real challenges that come up as you start taking your first steps. Difficulties responding to messages in your dating app? Fear of the first date? Any challenge that comes up, you will explore it, understand it, learn to accept yourself more fully through it as well as to successfully manage it, in the mentorship phase of this coaching journey.

Please note that this journey aims to serve you in establishing your own, unique dating approach. It does not offer tips & tricks ("how to write a successful dating app profile"), nor is it a competence development training ("how to behave to impress on your first date") nor does it believe in universally "right" solutions. Instead, this coaching approach believes in you, and your own potential to find exactly what is right for you – and aims to serve you on your journey of discovering that for yourself. 

 

Ready to get started?

If you're ready to take this important step towards managing expat life challenges and intercultural encounters more efficiently, it is very easy to get started:

  • Send a message on any of the contacts below. Please indicate which coaching process you are interested in (this one is called "expat coaching / intercultural coaching")

  • I will respond within 2-3 days and we will set the appointment for your first 30-minute consultation. This call is absolutely for free and requires no commitment from you.

  • During the call, you are invited to share a bit about yourself, your current situation and your objectives. You are also welcome to ask questions about the approach, the methodology used during the coaching. All practical aspects (scheduling, payment, etc.) are also clarified. 

  • After the call, if you decide to start with your process, you will be guided through the secure payment process and your first appointment will be confirmed.

  • It's that simple! If you have any questions, feel free to ask, using any of the contacts below.

Ready to get started?

If you're ready take this important step towards your authentic dating success, it is very easy to get started:

  • Send a message on any of the contacts below. Please indicate which coaching process you are interested in (this one is called "dating coaching")

  • I will respond within 2-3 days and we will set the appointment for your first 30-minute consultation. This call is absolutely for free and requires no commitment from you.

  • During the call, you are invited to share a bit about yourself, your current situation and your objectives. You are also welcome to ask questions about the approach, the methodology used during the coaching. All practical aspects (scheduling, payment, etc.) are also clarified. 

  • After the call, if you decide to start with your process, you will be guided through the secure payment process and your first appointment will be confirmed.

  • It's that simple! If you have any questions, feel free to ask, using any of the contacts below.

 

Take that first step today.

Get in touch.

Claim your free, 30-min first consultation here. 

Bo Mérei

Counselor & Coach
 

Email: borisz@counselorinberlin.de

Phone: +49 175 5239861

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